— rules of the world (#1)

Few days ago, one rule of the world was finally embedded in my mind. Well, I learned it hard way. Actually the lesson was simple (yet essential) :

People focus on WHO speaks and HOW he/she says it better than WHAT he/she says.

I actually find this rule pretty ridiculous. I mean, come on, how can logical people still think like that! Everyone has his own way to say something, one person says the truth with a nice tone, other says it with a sharp tone. People tend to feel offended in the latter situation. Not only tone they concern about but also who speaks. If someone who succeed advises you how to achieve your dream, you must feel encouraged. Otherwise if someone who fails tells you some tips how to succeed, you must think that the person is only blabbering. You won’t even care the reason why he tells you that although perhaps that person wants to warn you about the upcoming obstacles he once failed and he doesn’t want you to flunk in the same hole. Unfortunately the feeling of being offended & the thought of judging someone like that is already implanted in our society.

People call it; manner. If I don’t follow the manner, people will judge me as ill-mannered and be ashamed of my own family. So I’d better pay attention more on how polite I say something and who I am to say it. Up until yesterday I still stick to my opinion that this rule is foolish, but something changes my mind …

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